C: I am afraid of what could happen if I don’t reach out, I think I will.
Step 2: Choose
While there are many factors as to why people may choose not to intervene, including but not limited to: time, location, biases, age, gender, culture, religion, race/ethnicity, group size, past experiences, safety concerns, and fear, we may sometimes also experience internal dialogues that may prevent us from choosing to take action.
- “Someone else will do something.”
- “It’s not my business.”
- “I am afraid of what can happen to me if intervene.”
- “What if I am wrong?”
- “My friend will be mad at me.”
- “No-one else thinks it’s a problem so it’s not a big deal.”
While it may be helpful to either recognize the situation as a problem, have been asked for help, or have witnessed others intervene, some internal dialogue that may motivate us to choose to take action is listed below:
- “I would want someone to help me or my loved one if I was in that situation.”
- “This is wrong and I need to do something about this.”
- “I am afraid of what will happen if I don’t do anything.”
- “I’ll feel better knowing I did something.”
- “I care about this person, and/ or my community.”
Examples of Choosing:
C: I care about her and she shouldn’t have to do any she doesn’t want to do, I will do something about this.
C: This is wrong and I need to do something about this. I have to say or do something.
C: I’ll feel better knowing I did something.
C: I would want someone to help me if I was in that situation.
C: I care about my friends and I don’t want them to get in trouble.